I dont think my brain is failing so much as some here manufacture reasons and excuses to find fault with only some folks--while others are given free passes..if I can accept that, then perhaps those others should accept that away from here they cant dictate what is and is not said. I said Id drop that discussion HERE and did exactly that.
as far as my brain....
FYI-I posted the following merely to illustrate that Yvonne and I had made a "connection" and I assumed HAD behaved as if we were "friends" to refute the childish " no one wants you here" nonsense thats part of Spank's bag o' tricks:
AND long time member Yvonne--one of many-- sends me greetings regularly here and in private email
Note that I did NOT apply any qualifier--'close' or otherwise--I never stated or implied any "closeness" other than beyond "more than just another poster"--since when does "sends me greetings regularly even imply anything beyond "friends'???
Yvonne then posted
I have had it up to here that you mention my name like we are close friends. We aren't !
Nobody is just my friend.
and then it appears as if she lists reasons why I was indeed mistaken about the friendship and not "just her friend"
-one: if I were really her friend that I wouldnt send her a greeting of " hope all is well with you" since I should already know this--which IMO is ABSURD as Ive explained- the colloquialism here meant is " havent heard from you in awhile so I hope all is well"--why ASK if you dont think youre friends??
or do you not use that greeting in the Netherlands??
-two- second reason for me to see that Im not "just her friend"- that she agrees more with Spanky than I ( again I repeat--implied as a reason I shouldnt have assumed we are "friends")
Yvonne wrote as part of that list "AND to be clear" which sounds an awful lot like " and another reason we are not friends is":
And to be clear: in most topics I agree more frequently with Spanky than with you
and so by her implying that she doesnt always agree with me ( by stating that she does more times agree with Spank) as one of her listed reasons for not being "friends", it was IMO a valid and pertinent connection
hence my question
Do you just say "friend" about ONLY the people you DO always agree with?? I dont
after all did she not say " nobody is just my friend"?? and then list reasons why that was and why I therefore
was not "just her friend"????
so explain to me how she didnt say anything like that?? or that my brain failed with a connection?
you sorta ask:
Noticed the word "close"? Did you miss that or do you also have your own definition of that?
Yes,I saw the word "close" and since I never applied that qualifier to the type of friendship I assumed ( again MY bad) I also saw the very next thing she wrote " not just my friend"--what I took to mean not ANY kind of friend.
as for my definition of "close" friend--I didnt define that--Yvonne did--saying thats how I used her name- where in my post did YOU see me print that?? where I made any claims I was anyone's CLOSE friend??
all I said and meant was that a long time member was ( I apparently wrongly assumed) friendLY
, as in "friends"--sending me both private and email messages doesnt define "close" friends for me frankly.not that its anyone's business but, IMO close friends share more intimate details of one's life, they remember birthdays, they join in celebrating happy events and support during sad ones. I never assumed, presumed or implied that sort of a relationship with Yvonne!!
when someone says to me to not mention her name as if we were close friends ( when I didnt) and then says nobody is just her friend--that implies ANY sort of friend-its hurtful and deserves a like response--of a "same to you, sorry I misjudged you" type
as far as my saying that Id drop the discussion HERE, I did just that.I dropped the discussion between Spank and me-- HERE. what I say and do anywhere else frankly isnt anyones business--I havent said a thing that I also havent made clear here.
he did end with
or is that what you want, here
and I AGREED that for the good of HERE, we could drop it HERE
Do I ask him what he says to YOU anywhere else about ME??? by say, PM or phone or email?? do I try to control what YOU say about ME anywhere else?? I happen to KNOW a lot about what you say about me behind my back--thanks to Joe before he died and others...but I do not allow that to interfere with interactions HERE
the fact that Spank may have a problem with not having control over what anyone ( or I) says or does elsewhere should have no bearing on HERE.
frankly you and he are better than that-- taking an out of context title and first sentence excerpt anyway--why doesnt he post the ENTIRE thread from Lymegate??
SO, I agreed to drop it HERE and I did...until you accused me of something erroneous and I exercised my right to refute it.
is it at all possible to move on, now???
I will, if you all will
IMO there are far more important things to squabble about!!